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[personal profile] red_lasbelin
I just had a question, thought I'd ask my flist. When I watch movies, and there's a scene where one of the characters is embarrassed or majorly humiliated, I literally feel it for them. It doesn't matter if I connect to their character very well. I just see it's coming and almost crawl out of my skin.

Anyone else like that? Or I am just strange?

Date: 2010-03-26 04:30 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] phyncke.livejournal.com
Empathy. Yep.

Date: 2010-03-26 03:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
More like embarrassment squick...

Date: 2010-03-26 04:41 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] phyncke.livejournal.com
I don't know what that is classified as. I feel the empathy which is a kind of that and imagine myself in that situation and all the awkwardness that they feel etc. Must be different, not sure. I think that is coupled with the embarrassment of the situation too. All things combined. Sometimes I just have to turn it off if it is a DVD. Just cannot watch those moments LOL. :P

Date: 2010-03-26 05:38 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
I don't know if empathy works for me personally as much, because it doesn't matter if I connect with the character or understand where they are coming from personally, and I'm not envisioning myself in their place. It's a very general thing. Maybe a surface empathy, I suppose.

Definitely understand turning it off at times!

Date: 2010-03-26 06:47 am (UTC)
From: [identity profile] nienna-weeper.livejournal.com
Me too... Maybe we're just sensitive?

Date: 2010-03-26 03:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
I think so. And it's not fun because that happens a lot in movies.

Date: 2010-03-26 08:37 am (UTC)
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From: [identity profile] rhapsody11.livejournal.com
*raises hand*

Date: 2010-03-26 03:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
Aw, now I don't feel alone. *hugs rhaps*

Date: 2010-03-26 01:49 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] tuxedo-elf.livejournal.com
I'm the same! I'll even go so far as to skip those scenes if possible, lol. I hate seeing people humiliated, fictional or otherwise!

Date: 2010-03-26 05:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
*waves to tux* always great to find a like mind! But it happens so often, it seems like! If I can't skip it, I'll cover my ears and go 'oh god no'.

Date: 2010-03-26 01:54 pm (UTC)
minuial_nuwing: (Default)
From: [personal profile] minuial_nuwing
Oh, me, too!

I'm just as bad with books, even. And if I've seen the movie or read the book before and know what's coming, I'll skip over it.

**hugs**

Date: 2010-03-26 05:33 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
Me too - and if I'm watching a recorded tv show, and I see it coming anyway, I'll generally skip it. It happens enough (and often is a logical consequence of their actions) - that it doesn't mean I am losing anything by not seeing/reading it.

Just seems to be a really frequent plot twist.

Date: 2010-03-26 02:35 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] mdarkdreamer.livejournal.com
What I hate is when the charicter get acused of something they did not do and noone beleaves them kind of thing and all the angst that happs from that. I have had that done to me many times so I hate that kind of "scenerio"...like in HP Goblet of fire that was playing on tv the other day, Harrys name is put in the goblet and he was chosen, but noone under 17 was supose to compeet or something. He did not put his name in, someone else did it but Everyone thinks he cheeted and treats him like crap...yet, he didnt do it. I react to that, the falsly acused kind of stuff. And yes, the embaresment stuff to but mostly the other.

If that makes sence

~Dark

Date: 2010-03-26 05:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
Yes, that does make sense. I think our experiences shape our likes and dislikes. And if it's something happened quite a lot to you, I definitely imagine hating examples and circumstances of it on general media.

I'm sorry that happened to you. *hugs*

Date: 2010-03-26 07:21 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] chaotic-binky.livejournal.com
I do that as well.

Hugs Binky xxx

Date: 2010-03-27 09:52 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
Heh, then I'm not alone. :D

Date: 2010-03-26 08:25 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keiliss.livejournal.com

I've skipped scenes in books where I know a character is about to be humiliated in some way, I'll close my eyes in movies, and on tv I've changed channels and checked back after a few minutes. And like you, I don't have to feel a strong connection with the character, I think it's the situation s/he's in that unsettles me. Probably tied to fear of being in a similar kind of situation?

I'm with Dark in hating it when someone is unfairly accused, it's horribly like my 8th grade teacher giving me zero for an essay and accusing me of copying it from a magazine. Meanwhile, it was the best thing I'd ever written.

Actually --- even now that makes me grit my teeth, lol.

Date: 2010-03-30 02:55 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
I think maybe it's the situation itself that is upsetting. I know I tend to replay those moments in my head when it happens to me and I hate them. I didn't know you did it as well. OM?

Did your teacher ever give a source for his comment? Because if it was completely unsupported...Well, I suppose it wouldn't have done much good. Though he did give you a backhanded compliment. That paper was so good he thought it was professional? Still - ouch, baby. *hugs*

(sorry about the lateness, but at least you know what life's looked like lately...)

Date: 2010-03-31 09:31 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] keiliss.livejournal.com
Told the entire class there was a student who had clearly copied her essay from a magazine of some such, and it was very easy to see this, all one had to do was look back over her previous work and note the difference in quality.

This was the first assignment I was even slightly interested in that year, so instead of just churning out enough to get a pass mark, I made an effort :D. And being only 13, I turned blood red the moment I got my paper back. Probably confirmed guilt.

Date: 2010-03-27 09:17 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] faithsdiary.livejournal.com
Yep happens to me all the time. I cried buckets when I read Mercedes Lackey's triolgy Magic's Price, Magic's Pawn and Magic's Promise. I couldn't help myself I knew what was coming but I still cried. To this day these are the only three books I have ever re read straight away, lol I think I thought that if I re read them straight away the story would somehow turn out differently, needless to say I cried buckets again!

Date: 2010-03-30 02:56 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] red-lasbelin.livejournal.com
I'm not familiar with the books? What happened? Was it really awful?

I've never reread a series straight away after finishing it, so I'm really intrigued at the books now.

Date: 2010-03-31 11:47 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] faithsdiary.livejournal.com
The three books cover the life of a young mage as he grows up to become the protector of his people. He has a lover (male) who dies the story really gets sad right at the very end when he gives up his own life. It's a powerful read (for me at least) and I read all three books one after the other. It's verty hard to describe the story without writing loads and loads about it. Although the maine character is a homosexual there is no explicit sex described in detail in the books, it's a bit like the old film, you see the couple kiss andthe door closes on what happens next though we know what is happening. I would recommend the books to you very much.

The three books together are calleg the herald mage trilogy. Lackey has constructed a whole timeline for the people of these books which start much further back in the inhabitants history. Each section has three books which cover a peiod and can be read as stand alone books.

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